Rape and sexual assault (men)

Rape is a sexual act imposed upon a non-consenting partner, stranger or friend. It is perhaps the most misunderstood of all crimes.

Being raped or sexually assaulted is a very distressing experience - the effects of which can be extremely long lasting.

It is not only women that are raped or sexually assaulted; it happens to men as well. Rape or Sexual Assault is as serious a crime whether it happens to men or women.

The rape and sexual assault of men remains a taboo subject in our society. Yet, one in four rapes are of men and 90% of these have no connection with gay relations. It can and does happen, and it is important for those who experience it to receive help for the trauma and confusion it can cause.

Victims of male rape are often unable to discuss their feelings about the event, and often don't report the incident to the police (though they may report an assault, leaving out the details). However, there are people who understand what it is like and help is available to those willing to take it.

To prevent such an ordeal causing long term distress, please don't suffer in silence. Contact Victim Support or, if you prefer, one of the organisations listed below. All contact is in the strictest confidence. We're here to help.

How it happens

Male rape is usually random.

It sometimes happens within the gay community where men are raped in and out of relationships.

Heterosexual men often rape other straight men, which can be confusing for the victim. This confusion can lead to victims wondering if they gave homosexual 'vibes', especially if they experienced sexual arousal during the attack. Yet arousal in such circumstances can be a physical response to fear.

Rape victims sometimes question their sexuality as a result, even though they do not want to discuss these feelings with anyone. Many men physically freeze during the attack, which explains why the strongest men may be powerless to resist. The attack may be violent or pre-meditated, where the victim - often weaker and more vulnerable than the rapist - may be groomed for the attack.

Men need to recognise that they have the right to say no to sex, regardless of who they are or the circumstances they are in. After a sexual attack, help and support is vital.

Reporting the Rape or Sexual Assault to the Police

Men who have suffered sexual violence must decide for themselves whether or not to report the assault to the police. It can help to talk this over with someone first, and Victim Support is here for you if you do not feel able to talk to family or friends.

The police have officers who are specially trained to deal with cases of rape and sexual assault, including those committed against men. If you do report what happened, a trained police officer will take basic details from you. If it happened recently they will arrange a medical examination to collect evidence. When you feel able to give a full statement about the crime, the police will take further details from you. This statement will be used as the main evidence if there is a court case.

If English is not your first language, the police can arrange for an interpreter to be present.

The police will let you know if someone is caught and charged and whether or not they are given bail. You should tell the Police if you are worried about your attacker intimidating or harassing you.

Health

Rapists rarely use a condom, so you may be at risk of HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases. You should contact your GP (who must treat you and maintain confidentiality) or a sexual health clinic such as the Haven, both for your own peace of mind and because it will help you if you want to pursue a court case. If you need help contacting a suitable local health centre or if you want support with your visit, contact us.

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